Sunday 26 June 2016

Why I (and the other 4) chose to 'Bang Against The Wall'

Hello ladies! Its been a while (i know i know... guilty as charged) since I last wrote but its been a tad busy for me... with lull economy times like this, I need to work extremely harder than before to ensure I get to pay my girls and foot the rent... Running a business is not easy and it is not just getting a space and take stock and sell clothes. It is more than that if you need to ensure that you can thrive in the business. IT is a lot of hard work and get loads of criticism and backlash and improve and progress... those who are in the same trade as me will truly understand what I am talking about...

And just when I am increasing my momentum for my business (i never stop, in fact I work more than ever) my 4 other girls namely Prissy, Cate, Jenah and Karen decided to launch a closed group for you curvy ladies namely, 'Curvysta - Because theres a Star in You'



Many people came towards me and even my friends and told them how dumb and silly it is to form a group for curvy ladies as this is not money making. It is time consuming, sucks our energy and at times we have to fork out our own money for miscellaneous items. Many told me straight in the face that I am 'woah, you are so big hearted but in a way you are dumb' and I know my other 4 girlies got similar backlash too but really, We WANT TO DO IT, willingly - period.

The 5 of us came together by chance since 2010 and we hang out pretty much often. Of course, some came and go and that left the 5 of us now. Of course we fight and we wish to can smack each others brains once in a while BUT we realised that despite our DIFFERENCES, we really have a common goal and that is we want to GIVE BACK TO the curvy ladies and we REALLY WANT TO SERVE. I was once mocked for being 'snake' and that I have hidden agenda when Curvysta was launched. I didnt need to even reply that comment for I know deep down I stand tall, am dignified and I shouldnt fear. We also have naggy loved ones who told us to not be so involved because taking a bus to source for location 'also cost money and Curvysta is not paying you' but WE REALLY WANT TO DO IT, period. I once heard from other source that we were criticised for choosing to be in groups and we shouldnt be choosing people and make them into our group. But then the truth is: We didnt! We sincerely welcome curvy ladies to come join us! 





So what is Curvysta all about?

Curvysta is founded by 5 like-minded FAT ladies who wish to give back WILLINGLY to the other curvy ladies. We know how it TRULY feels to be criticised EVERYDAY by family and friends for being fat and lazy and beyond hope. We believe that every curvy girl despite size OUGHT to be happy inside and beautiful outside. We believe that by bonding and gathering, we can share positive vibes and share the pain together should there be a need to. Curvysta is all about LOVE, POSITIVE ATTITUDE, SHARING, CARING and KEEPING IN TOUCH. We do create events (the first 3 was an awesome success!) and we will continue to keep doing it until we get it right! It is definitely not about making money! (as I am typing this I am getting annoyed... calm as a clam... ohmmmm kayde-oooohm) Each of us runs a business or has a dedicated job and one of us (not me) runs a family business that speaks millions. I am very happy with my Kaylene business and I am thriving well, really ladies... I couldnt understand why we are suspected to launch Curvysta with a hidden agenda. Okay.. maybe we do have a agenda and that is:

We want Curvysta to grow well and prosper in terms of the number of members and that we will constantly meet up and find new friendship and share our joy and positive lights. We want all members to find peace within oneself and that life is more than the physical appearance. We want Curvysta to grow in to big numbers so that we can support one another and network together in all parts of Singapore. We want to create a group where when we cross the road and see another curvy lady, we greet each other with a smile or a high 5 instead of having heads down and not looking up.

So there, right now Curvysta is a baby and has 600 over members (great job admins!) and we are very strict in this group. We do not sell products (yet) and do not promote anything. We have hawk eyes whenever we have members awaiting to be approved. We are that serious in making sure you girls get a safe environment. (that said, if anyone cheats and foul play, let us know we will block them) the 5 of us are very comforted by the numbers and we know it can get only better.  Do come and support this group by supporting events that we organise! These are our fuel and energy booster and remind us that all the calls we make, all the site recce, all the emails we sent out are worthwhile because you girls will get to enjoy the events. That is really what we are asking for and this is really what we want to do and that is 'TO SERVE'. The admins recently got deflated by the lack of response for the Yoga class (ironically theres more people asking on whens the next one since the 1st is cancelled) and I spoke to Mr Ling about my fears on failing to pull through Curvysta. He calmly replied:' Just keep doing. Even if it is just 1 person who turns up. Just keep doing until it becomes 10 and till it becomes 100..' woah... what a positive man injecting positive vibe to the low-morale wife... I got up shortly after and sent text to the other 4 to remind them to keep our heads up! All replied with positive response and yup, we are ready to rock and roll again!

So now ladies, I have officially introduced Curvysta (i know it is a tad too late!) and the 5 admins sincerely hope you will join us and be part of a new family that has nothing but joy, love and positive vibes.

To join us and find out the next event (painting and tea session!) click the following to join us! 

****CLICK BELOW TO JOIN US AND MEET ON 10th JULY for PAINTING AND TEA SESSION!****

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1730585360508735

Tuesday 19 April 2016

Always something.... to be thankful for



This is something I truly believe and manifest in...

Been 'spying' (not really la, they popped up on my FB wall) and noticed some ladies here are kinda depressed over something. It can be tough to face the reality and hard to put on that genuine smile.. but listen! There is always bound to have something to look forward to and be thankful for.

  • What about the upcoming holiday you have saved up for months and finally going to experience some cool air?
  • What about the gathering you and your girles have planned for to binge on that SUPER DUPER yummy food
  • What about knowing someone you know will be discharged soon from hospital?
  • What about knowing the parcel you ordered will soon arrive at your door step?
  • What about knowing that your little poochie will welcome you wholeheartedly the moment you get home?

The list is long and toooooo long! We need to feel at peace and manifest good things in life. It is only then, you will only be able to find true happiness. After seeing the individual FB postings, the admins and I are even more determined to make Curvysta be successful and in hope we can change 1 or 2 'depressed' lady.
but while we are gearing towards that, we need to remind ourselves that there is ALWAYS ALWAYS something to be thankful for.
 
I honestly did not start out to be like this. I am a pessimistic and gawd... I find all ways to be upset. I am upset with my flat hair, I am upset with my small eyes, no dimple. I am upset with my double chin. I am even am upset with why my house is not like my gfs which is super neat and cosy. Then I realised something, OMG.... all these things I am upset about are manifested by me! It is true! Why so? It is because if I am upset with my hair, I can simply go to a hair salon and go a revamp hair cut, i have small eyes yes, but I failed to see how caucasions find my eyes exotic and unique! I have messy home because I did not come up with a system to clean my house! Everything started from me due to my pessimistic attitude! So what I do NOW is that I tend to find different angles to look at things and be happy about it! I must add though, that you need to be in the right group of people as they will help you gear towards positivity. This is important and when you start to sense they are more of a poison to you, you need to slowly take a step back, away from them...

It is a lot of work for beginners to feel positive and be happy about everything! But we try and we give ourselves some time to be a new person... I am alot more positive these days and I remind myself by reading loads of happy quotes and books and I think it helps! So come ladies! Try your best in finding an angle to be happy about today!
What about mine you may ask? Mine's simple, I am thankful that I can sweat so much in just typing on this warm day. No seriously, I need to sweat out those water retention due to the meds and for this, I am REALLY thankful....


Friday 18 March 2016



Good morning ladies! Happy weekend is finally here isnt it?
Yesterday while driving to work, I turned up my favourite playlist and a particular song caught my attention. The song is 'Brave by Sara Bareilles'
I have a tendency to download songs that will remind/have a positive impact once I hear the songs. Last year was an extremely tough year for me and this song was one of the few songs tt I kept listening to in order to keep my spirits up. 


Back to the car ride, I often wonder how it is for any curvy ladies to be able to withstand bully and stigma and constantly being joked at just because we are different in size. I get that alot from my slim friends and they kept laughing at me, telling me that it is just a joke and theres no harm to their 'fatty' jokes. I used to laugh it off but now I don't. I will nicely tell them that if they treat me as a friend, they ought to look beyond my physical size and look and TALK TO ME from inside. The real Kayde is NICE and REAL and LOVABLE, look past the size and then talk to me again, will you still say 'fatty jokes' again? I made my point nicely and confidently and often they finally understood what they did was hurtful instead of being cheeky (trust me, most of them do not know that they were being hurtful, they just thought it is funny, but we are better than that, we are classy and magnimanous)

Back to the song, I hope this is in your favourite play list as this song reminds me that in all areas in life, from work to personal to family etc, be brave and tell them how you feel. Even if you do not wish to tell them or explain, be brave FOR YOURSELF, calm your heart and tell yourself that it is okay and you can do better than them. Forgive them as they do not know you and your body well enough. Be brave and face the world again for the time on earth is pretty limited.

Brave by Sara Bareilles Look at her MV here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUQsqBqxoR4

And here goes the lyrics, do take a read! I find it so meaningful...

You can be amazing
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody's lack of love
Or you can start speaking up
Nothing's gonna hurt you the way that words do
And they settle 'neath your skin
Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
But I wonder what would happen if you
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
Everybody's been there, everybody's been stared down
By the enemy
Fallen for the fear and done some disappearing
Bow down to the mighty
Don't run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there's a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
Innocence, your history of silence
Won't do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don't you tell them the truth?
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
See you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
Everybody's been there, everybody's been stared down
By the enemy
Fallen for the fear and done some disappearing
Bow down to the mighty
Don't run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there's a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
Innocence, your history of silence
Won't do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don't you tell them the truth?
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
See you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you


I hope I can send some positive light by introducing this song to you. The next time when you hear this song again on the radio, hum along with it and smile! For you are the brave girl the singer is singing for!
Is there songs that you have heard and find it inspiring? Tell us and we can always share! I have alot of songs in my playlist about reminding me to be grounded and true to myself, what about you? Share it with us! After all, this is a place where we ought to share nothing but good things!