I have nowhere to write but I need to pen this down. I really want to express how much gratitude I have for your love and support and that you have not let me go. And that you still think there are a way and room to bloom when I am feeling the opposite.
I am very thankful for the support and encouragement and yet I have to brave up to disappoint you. Once again, I am very thankful for the guidance, the love and the belief. I need to do what I need to do and that it is only necessary that this break up has to happen. I really really hate to disappoint people. Period.
In time to come I will be able to speak again, but for now, I wish to lay low at the back scene and try to figure out what I can do to potentially speak to you again.
Once again, I truly appreciate your kind support and belief in me.
Till we meet again.
Monday, 25 June 2018
Thursday, 21 June 2018
Monday, 11 June 2018
Goodbye dear Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain
Last week was tough. I woke up and flipped through IG, I saw a devastating post that Kate Spade has left the world through ending her own life. I felt this immense pain and sadness as I truly liked her as an designer. Although along the history of fashion, colour pop and quirky designs trended in the fashion scene like Mary Quant, I believe Kate Spade is the strongest quirky yet practical brand that surfaced in my 'era' Kate Spade was often my to go to for fashion inspiration and I always love how she stuck true to her design elements which for this case was modern vintage with a nice colour pop. I really appreciate her designing style and that she can make simple silhouettes make it look so beautiful by adding little but striking details in each and every of her piece.
Days later, I found out through a friend that famous chef Anthony Bourdain has passed on by ending his life. He was 61 and I would guess he probably lived a pretty 'ok' life as he was a super famous and sought after chef.
When I read both articles on their sudden death, I freaked out a little. I couldn't understand how a happy rich people with a beautiful family can just end their life like that? There and then, I was transformed to readers like you, thinking about my life being perfect (read the previous post I wrote) Indeed, I assumed they were both happy and 'life was perfect for them' It was then I am reminded that depression is REAL, and it can creep to anyone's life in any possible way. In short, rich also can get depression, middle-income also can be attacked by depression and so are the poor.
Fighting depression alone is not easy and the worst part of all? You cannot tell anyone for you think that they will judge you and push you aside thinking you are crazy (the irony of it!) The problem with depression is that most of us think that it only happens on business people, important people and famous people but in real fact, it can happen to anyone. In the world today, the constant stress and expectations piled on us can be a tad too much for many to bear. Depression can come from anywhere and happen to anyone; from young mother with a little baby to a junior executive who just can't seem to keep up with work and it definitely can stretch to high positions which may include your boss. Depression is a freaky as it does not whack you with visible symptoms, it just weaves in slowly, inch by inch, one day at a time.
Last week was indeed dull and depressing to read about deaths due to depression but I took this opportunity to learn valuable teachings which allows me to understand myself more. I figured that material items like luxury items and fancy houses and cars may indeed feed you for a short while but unless you are truly happy, you will never be able to enjoy these items. I used to be looked down at when I was 18 because ex-boss brought me to good places which required me to smile and chat up with celebrities and famous people. I also shortly joined a luxurious trade of high-end jewellery which you meet really, really REALLY rich people and can never understand 'why are you always the same blouse every time I see you?' I felt much less than them and got angry. I got to a point where I wanted to prove a point so much till I lost control of my spendings. I am extremely thankful that Mr Ling came into my life and taught me the real reason to live and be able to live. I resisted and fought but eventually found inner peace through his strict teachings and him not spoiling me.
I know I definitely have tendency to slip into depression but I know I am not the only one. But I make effort to find solution by finding someone I trust to constantly talk to and never be judged by my words. Whenever Mr Ling chooses to shut his ears and think I am cray cray, I will immediately call to my besties for support and just by meeting up and rant, I feel much better.
The purpose of this post is to remind you that it is certainly okay to admit that you have depressed tendencies and constantly seeking for happiness but you can never understand how to find it. IT IS NORMAL okay? Just make sure you be open minded and speak to someone and listen to soothing meditation music and take baby steps to self heal. Depression is a long journey but never THE journey as we can overcome it! Remember that whatever that is bothering you, may it be physical health or mental, be open to talk about it.
I know I can do it and I will continue to work on it! And I manifest that you will overcome it too and that you are reminded that life is more than and that you are too precious to not fully utilize your fullest potential!
Love
K
Days later, I found out through a friend that famous chef Anthony Bourdain has passed on by ending his life. He was 61 and I would guess he probably lived a pretty 'ok' life as he was a super famous and sought after chef.
When I read both articles on their sudden death, I freaked out a little. I couldn't understand how a happy rich people with a beautiful family can just end their life like that? There and then, I was transformed to readers like you, thinking about my life being perfect (read the previous post I wrote) Indeed, I assumed they were both happy and 'life was perfect for them' It was then I am reminded that depression is REAL, and it can creep to anyone's life in any possible way. In short, rich also can get depression, middle-income also can be attacked by depression and so are the poor.
Fighting depression alone is not easy and the worst part of all? You cannot tell anyone for you think that they will judge you and push you aside thinking you are crazy (the irony of it!) The problem with depression is that most of us think that it only happens on business people, important people and famous people but in real fact, it can happen to anyone. In the world today, the constant stress and expectations piled on us can be a tad too much for many to bear. Depression can come from anywhere and happen to anyone; from young mother with a little baby to a junior executive who just can't seem to keep up with work and it definitely can stretch to high positions which may include your boss. Depression is a freaky as it does not whack you with visible symptoms, it just weaves in slowly, inch by inch, one day at a time.
Last week was indeed dull and depressing to read about deaths due to depression but I took this opportunity to learn valuable teachings which allows me to understand myself more. I figured that material items like luxury items and fancy houses and cars may indeed feed you for a short while but unless you are truly happy, you will never be able to enjoy these items. I used to be looked down at when I was 18 because ex-boss brought me to good places which required me to smile and chat up with celebrities and famous people. I also shortly joined a luxurious trade of high-end jewellery which you meet really, really REALLY rich people and can never understand 'why are you always the same blouse every time I see you?' I felt much less than them and got angry. I got to a point where I wanted to prove a point so much till I lost control of my spendings. I am extremely thankful that Mr Ling came into my life and taught me the real reason to live and be able to live. I resisted and fought but eventually found inner peace through his strict teachings and him not spoiling me.
I know I definitely have tendency to slip into depression but I know I am not the only one. But I make effort to find solution by finding someone I trust to constantly talk to and never be judged by my words. Whenever Mr Ling chooses to shut his ears and think I am cray cray, I will immediately call to my besties for support and just by meeting up and rant, I feel much better.
The purpose of this post is to remind you that it is certainly okay to admit that you have depressed tendencies and constantly seeking for happiness but you can never understand how to find it. IT IS NORMAL okay? Just make sure you be open minded and speak to someone and listen to soothing meditation music and take baby steps to self heal. Depression is a long journey but never THE journey as we can overcome it! Remember that whatever that is bothering you, may it be physical health or mental, be open to talk about it.
I know I can do it and I will continue to work on it! And I manifest that you will overcome it too and that you are reminded that life is more than and that you are too precious to not fully utilize your fullest potential!
Love
K
Tuesday, 5 June 2018
Negative Vibe
It is indeed a while since I have done a post and last checked was more than 2 years ago. I have been trying to get back to blogging for a while now as nudged by my fellow colleague as they felt that many ladies missed this connection I used to have with them. I honestly have many drafts in my blogspot but I could not post them up as they were negative and I fiercely fought back because I wanted to keep the 'happy blessed Kayde' image that most of you have. But tonight was different and I spoke briefly to Mr Ling if expressing this heartfelt blogpost is acceptable. This man is super sweet . He agreed that it is good to vent and let out some steam once in a while but of course, his final words before he started snoring was 'do not include anything that is hurtful to anyone and spare a thought for people who read this post'
I wanted to sleep over this feeling but I kept tossing and turning on the bed since 9pm and forced myself to sleep but I really couldn't. It has been a while since I felt this uncontrollable negative energy filling up my mind. Like you, I thought after the long holiday with beautiful scenery and skies and sea would make me feel energised and hopeful but it only lasted less than a week before I got overwhelmed with the current situation I am back before I left for the trip. What exactly am I talking about, you may ask and to make things simple for you, I am going to make it short and sweet.
I know this may sound nothing to you but to those who have gone through this business journey with me might grasp for air due to shock and disbelief. I know right? How can this be possible? Isn't everything great and Kayde's life is so perfect! How can she be sick of the business?
The truth is that during this short period of 2 to 3 years, I have unknowingly got entwined with a lot of major (in my opinion) business-related decisions, business strategy decisions which are much larger scale than 10 years ago. I got ambitious and I got excited, thinking that I can do and dress up more people along the way and that my business will be made known for dressing curvy ladies locally and internationally. I kept thinking that my main goal in life is to be able to dress as many curvy ladies worldwide (hence the logo *wink wink.. *) As I scaled up, I hired more people to assist me and the next you knew, you have a freaking awesome team behind you. In terms of designs, we have expanded and explored so many new techniques that we have never even dare to dream and we got a big spacious prime location to reach out to more people and tourists. There were more beautiful and pretty things happened in these short years and I guess I got to say, we were really happy and full of positive energy, believing that we can achieve what we have set.
Unfortunately, no one knew there was an ugly side of the business. Commitments grew bigger and stressed downloaded on me, forcing me to make decisions every other day and sometimes I questioned myself if I am a good employer. I got judged in character and it really stings at times because I know if it was years back, I am sure I can handle it way better. It certainly did not help when I totally lost control of my business forecasts which I was really good in with the uncertain market. I fought fiercely for a good 8 months before finally getting things on track and just when I thought I can smile and whistle a nice tune, I began to feel more burden and more stress from everywhere. I slowly begin to be angry with myself that I am not good enough with my designs (i am extremely critical of myself in terms of designs) and every positive feedback would sound like criticism and the words filled my brains and my night. I used to be really confident on how to handle business matters but as the business grew, I lost my balance and constantly finding myself losing focus as I had too much to deal with and work on. It was after weeks of self reflection and being honest with myself, I concluded that I no longer have to the faith to carry the Kaylene torch and bring it to greater heights. There were days where I just want to drop it and 'why bother to help others when you can even help yourself' It sounds harsh and sad but at this point of time, I felt that this torch is way too heavy for me and the flames on this burning torch are blinding my sight.
In the office, I spoke briefly to two of my trusted colleagues. They were quick to identify that I am indeed burned out but they were also curious why I openly talked about being burned out AFTER a trip while many do the opposite. I guess the only reason to this is that I have truly come to terms with accepting myself and my limitations during this long trip. It is painful for a proud person like myself to acknowledge my shortcoming but I guess I have to embrace this ugly fact so that I can move next to healing myself and change to be a better person.
The funny thing is that I am often told that I am one of the luckiest people in the world. I truly agree and thank God for the blessings I received but to be considered the happiest person is something I tend to shrug and frown. The truth is I don't feel happy of late due to stress and I find it extremely hard to get my smile back (yes, not even having my sis to tempt into getting me a beautiful piece of jewelry could make me smile and I AM quite a sucker for jewelry)
I really am unsure what the future holds for Kaylene as this brand is literally my blood. Losing this brand will take everything from me and I will fight till the end in order to protect this child of mine. But I am aware of my tired body and I know fighting against the current is useless unless I figure a way to steer this business in another way. I did arrange some major shifts to the business and I believe we will see the results in a few months time. Until then, I really hope I can keep my head high and continue to nurture this baby I have since 2007 and I must say, after typing this, I felt much better (well, at least better than writing business emails!)
I apologise to you reading this now and probably kena some negative vibe from me. This post was much needed and served me as a reminder that I finally lost the battle of being 'strong' and in hope that in days to come when I am reading this again, I will be reminded on how lost I was and how I managed to overcome it. I hope to bounce back in the quickest time. For now, it is a good vent and I believe after shutting down this lappie, I can go get some good rest.
Thank you for reading, it means alot to me.
Xoxo
K
I wanted to sleep over this feeling but I kept tossing and turning on the bed since 9pm and forced myself to sleep but I really couldn't. It has been a while since I felt this uncontrollable negative energy filling up my mind. Like you, I thought after the long holiday with beautiful scenery and skies and sea would make me feel energised and hopeful but it only lasted less than a week before I got overwhelmed with the current situation I am back before I left for the trip. What exactly am I talking about, you may ask and to make things simple for you, I am going to make it short and sweet.
I no longer am in love with Kaylene, a 10 year old business which I built from nothing to something. I am starting to lose the connection for this business and it is even sadder because I am unsure why I feel this neagtive way.
I know this may sound nothing to you but to those who have gone through this business journey with me might grasp for air due to shock and disbelief. I know right? How can this be possible? Isn't everything great and Kayde's life is so perfect! How can she be sick of the business?
The truth is that during this short period of 2 to 3 years, I have unknowingly got entwined with a lot of major (in my opinion) business-related decisions, business strategy decisions which are much larger scale than 10 years ago. I got ambitious and I got excited, thinking that I can do and dress up more people along the way and that my business will be made known for dressing curvy ladies locally and internationally. I kept thinking that my main goal in life is to be able to dress as many curvy ladies worldwide (hence the logo *wink wink.. *) As I scaled up, I hired more people to assist me and the next you knew, you have a freaking awesome team behind you. In terms of designs, we have expanded and explored so many new techniques that we have never even dare to dream and we got a big spacious prime location to reach out to more people and tourists. There were more beautiful and pretty things happened in these short years and I guess I got to say, we were really happy and full of positive energy, believing that we can achieve what we have set.
Unfortunately, no one knew there was an ugly side of the business. Commitments grew bigger and stressed downloaded on me, forcing me to make decisions every other day and sometimes I questioned myself if I am a good employer. I got judged in character and it really stings at times because I know if it was years back, I am sure I can handle it way better. It certainly did not help when I totally lost control of my business forecasts which I was really good in with the uncertain market. I fought fiercely for a good 8 months before finally getting things on track and just when I thought I can smile and whistle a nice tune, I began to feel more burden and more stress from everywhere. I slowly begin to be angry with myself that I am not good enough with my designs (i am extremely critical of myself in terms of designs) and every positive feedback would sound like criticism and the words filled my brains and my night. I used to be really confident on how to handle business matters but as the business grew, I lost my balance and constantly finding myself losing focus as I had too much to deal with and work on. It was after weeks of self reflection and being honest with myself, I concluded that I no longer have to the faith to carry the Kaylene torch and bring it to greater heights. There were days where I just want to drop it and 'why bother to help others when you can even help yourself' It sounds harsh and sad but at this point of time, I felt that this torch is way too heavy for me and the flames on this burning torch are blinding my sight.
In the office, I spoke briefly to two of my trusted colleagues. They were quick to identify that I am indeed burned out but they were also curious why I openly talked about being burned out AFTER a trip while many do the opposite. I guess the only reason to this is that I have truly come to terms with accepting myself and my limitations during this long trip. It is painful for a proud person like myself to acknowledge my shortcoming but I guess I have to embrace this ugly fact so that I can move next to healing myself and change to be a better person.
The funny thing is that I am often told that I am one of the luckiest people in the world. I truly agree and thank God for the blessings I received but to be considered the happiest person is something I tend to shrug and frown. The truth is I don't feel happy of late due to stress and I find it extremely hard to get my smile back (yes, not even having my sis to tempt into getting me a beautiful piece of jewelry could make me smile and I AM quite a sucker for jewelry)
I really am unsure what the future holds for Kaylene as this brand is literally my blood. Losing this brand will take everything from me and I will fight till the end in order to protect this child of mine. But I am aware of my tired body and I know fighting against the current is useless unless I figure a way to steer this business in another way. I did arrange some major shifts to the business and I believe we will see the results in a few months time. Until then, I really hope I can keep my head high and continue to nurture this baby I have since 2007 and I must say, after typing this, I felt much better (well, at least better than writing business emails!)
I apologise to you reading this now and probably kena some negative vibe from me. This post was much needed and served me as a reminder that I finally lost the battle of being 'strong' and in hope that in days to come when I am reading this again, I will be reminded on how lost I was and how I managed to overcome it. I hope to bounce back in the quickest time. For now, it is a good vent and I believe after shutting down this lappie, I can go get some good rest.
Thank you for reading, it means alot to me.
Xoxo
K
Sunday, 26 June 2016
Why I (and the other 4) chose to 'Bang Against The Wall'
Hello ladies! Its been a while (i know i know... guilty as charged) since I last wrote but its been a tad busy for me... with lull economy times like this, I need to work extremely harder than before to ensure I get to pay my girls and foot the rent... Running a business is not easy and it is not just getting a space and take stock and sell clothes. It is more than that if you need to ensure that you can thrive in the business. IT is a lot of hard work and get loads of criticism and backlash and improve and progress... those who are in the same trade as me will truly understand what I am talking about...
And just when I am increasing my momentum for my business (i never stop, in fact I work more than ever) my 4 other girls namely Prissy, Cate, Jenah and Karen decided to launch a closed group for you curvy ladies namely, 'Curvysta - Because theres a Star in You'
Many people came towards me and even my friends and told them how dumb and silly it is to form a group for curvy ladies as this is not money making. It is time consuming, sucks our energy and at times we have to fork out our own money for miscellaneous items. Many told me straight in the face that I am 'woah, you are so big hearted but in a way you are dumb' and I know my other 4 girlies got similar backlash too but really, We WANT TO DO IT, willingly - period.
The 5 of us came together by chance since 2010 and we hang out pretty much often. Of course, some came and go and that left the 5 of us now. Of course we fight and we wish to can smack each others brains once in a while BUT we realised that despite our DIFFERENCES, we really have a common goal and that is we want to GIVE BACK TO the curvy ladies and we REALLY WANT TO SERVE. I was once mocked for being 'snake' and that I have hidden agenda when Curvysta was launched. I didnt need to even reply that comment for I know deep down I stand tall, am dignified and I shouldnt fear. We also have naggy loved ones who told us to not be so involved because taking a bus to source for location 'also cost money and Curvysta is not paying you' but WE REALLY WANT TO DO IT, period. I once heard from other source that we were criticised for choosing to be in groups and we shouldnt be choosing people and make them into our group. But then the truth is: We didnt! We sincerely welcome curvy ladies to come join us!
So what is Curvysta all about?
Curvysta is founded by 5 like-minded FAT ladies who wish to give back WILLINGLY to the other curvy ladies. We know how it TRULY feels to be criticised EVERYDAY by family and friends for being fat and lazy and beyond hope. We believe that every curvy girl despite size OUGHT to be happy inside and beautiful outside. We believe that by bonding and gathering, we can share positive vibes and share the pain together should there be a need to. Curvysta is all about LOVE, POSITIVE ATTITUDE, SHARING, CARING and KEEPING IN TOUCH. We do create events (the first 3 was an awesome success!) and we will continue to keep doing it until we get it right! It is definitely not about making money! (as I am typing this I am getting annoyed... calm as a clam... ohmmmm kayde-oooohm) Each of us runs a business or has a dedicated job and one of us (not me) runs a family business that speaks millions. I am very happy with my Kaylene business and I am thriving well, really ladies... I couldnt understand why we are suspected to launch Curvysta with a hidden agenda. Okay.. maybe we do have a agenda and that is:
We want Curvysta to grow well and prosper in terms of the number of members and that we will constantly meet up and find new friendship and share our joy and positive lights. We want all members to find peace within oneself and that life is more than the physical appearance. We want Curvysta to grow in to big numbers so that we can support one another and network together in all parts of Singapore. We want to create a group where when we cross the road and see another curvy lady, we greet each other with a smile or a high 5 instead of having heads down and not looking up.
So there, right now Curvysta is a baby and has 600 over members (great job admins!) and we are very strict in this group. We do not sell products (yet) and do not promote anything. We have hawk eyes whenever we have members awaiting to be approved. We are that serious in making sure you girls get a safe environment. (that said, if anyone cheats and foul play, let us know we will block them) the 5 of us are very comforted by the numbers and we know it can get only better. Do come and support this group by supporting events that we organise! These are our fuel and energy booster and remind us that all the calls we make, all the site recce, all the emails we sent out are worthwhile because you girls will get to enjoy the events. That is really what we are asking for and this is really what we want to do and that is 'TO SERVE'. The admins recently got deflated by the lack of response for the Yoga class (ironically theres more people asking on whens the next one since the 1st is cancelled) and I spoke to Mr Ling about my fears on failing to pull through Curvysta. He calmly replied:' Just keep doing. Even if it is just 1 person who turns up. Just keep doing until it becomes 10 and till it becomes 100..' woah... what a positive man injecting positive vibe to the low-morale wife... I got up shortly after and sent text to the other 4 to remind them to keep our heads up! All replied with positive response and yup, we are ready to rock and roll again!
So now ladies, I have officially introduced Curvysta (i know it is a tad too late!) and the 5 admins sincerely hope you will join us and be part of a new family that has nothing but joy, love and positive vibes.
To join us and find out the next event (painting and tea session!) click the following to join us!
****CLICK BELOW TO JOIN US AND MEET ON 10th JULY for PAINTING AND TEA SESSION!****
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1730585360508735
And just when I am increasing my momentum for my business (i never stop, in fact I work more than ever) my 4 other girls namely Prissy, Cate, Jenah and Karen decided to launch a closed group for you curvy ladies namely, 'Curvysta - Because theres a Star in You'
Many people came towards me and even my friends and told them how dumb and silly it is to form a group for curvy ladies as this is not money making. It is time consuming, sucks our energy and at times we have to fork out our own money for miscellaneous items. Many told me straight in the face that I am 'woah, you are so big hearted but in a way you are dumb' and I know my other 4 girlies got similar backlash too but really, We WANT TO DO IT, willingly - period.
The 5 of us came together by chance since 2010 and we hang out pretty much often. Of course, some came and go and that left the 5 of us now. Of course we fight and we wish to can smack each others brains once in a while BUT we realised that despite our DIFFERENCES, we really have a common goal and that is we want to GIVE BACK TO the curvy ladies and we REALLY WANT TO SERVE. I was once mocked for being 'snake' and that I have hidden agenda when Curvysta was launched. I didnt need to even reply that comment for I know deep down I stand tall, am dignified and I shouldnt fear. We also have naggy loved ones who told us to not be so involved because taking a bus to source for location 'also cost money and Curvysta is not paying you' but WE REALLY WANT TO DO IT, period. I once heard from other source that we were criticised for choosing to be in groups and we shouldnt be choosing people and make them into our group. But then the truth is: We didnt! We sincerely welcome curvy ladies to come join us!
So what is Curvysta all about?
Curvysta is founded by 5 like-minded FAT ladies who wish to give back WILLINGLY to the other curvy ladies. We know how it TRULY feels to be criticised EVERYDAY by family and friends for being fat and lazy and beyond hope. We believe that every curvy girl despite size OUGHT to be happy inside and beautiful outside. We believe that by bonding and gathering, we can share positive vibes and share the pain together should there be a need to. Curvysta is all about LOVE, POSITIVE ATTITUDE, SHARING, CARING and KEEPING IN TOUCH. We do create events (the first 3 was an awesome success!) and we will continue to keep doing it until we get it right! It is definitely not about making money! (as I am typing this I am getting annoyed... calm as a clam... ohmmmm kayde-oooohm) Each of us runs a business or has a dedicated job and one of us (not me) runs a family business that speaks millions. I am very happy with my Kaylene business and I am thriving well, really ladies... I couldnt understand why we are suspected to launch Curvysta with a hidden agenda. Okay.. maybe we do have a agenda and that is:
We want Curvysta to grow well and prosper in terms of the number of members and that we will constantly meet up and find new friendship and share our joy and positive lights. We want all members to find peace within oneself and that life is more than the physical appearance. We want Curvysta to grow in to big numbers so that we can support one another and network together in all parts of Singapore. We want to create a group where when we cross the road and see another curvy lady, we greet each other with a smile or a high 5 instead of having heads down and not looking up.
So there, right now Curvysta is a baby and has 600 over members (great job admins!) and we are very strict in this group. We do not sell products (yet) and do not promote anything. We have hawk eyes whenever we have members awaiting to be approved. We are that serious in making sure you girls get a safe environment. (that said, if anyone cheats and foul play, let us know we will block them) the 5 of us are very comforted by the numbers and we know it can get only better. Do come and support this group by supporting events that we organise! These are our fuel and energy booster and remind us that all the calls we make, all the site recce, all the emails we sent out are worthwhile because you girls will get to enjoy the events. That is really what we are asking for and this is really what we want to do and that is 'TO SERVE'. The admins recently got deflated by the lack of response for the Yoga class (ironically theres more people asking on whens the next one since the 1st is cancelled) and I spoke to Mr Ling about my fears on failing to pull through Curvysta. He calmly replied:' Just keep doing. Even if it is just 1 person who turns up. Just keep doing until it becomes 10 and till it becomes 100..' woah... what a positive man injecting positive vibe to the low-morale wife... I got up shortly after and sent text to the other 4 to remind them to keep our heads up! All replied with positive response and yup, we are ready to rock and roll again!
So now ladies, I have officially introduced Curvysta (i know it is a tad too late!) and the 5 admins sincerely hope you will join us and be part of a new family that has nothing but joy, love and positive vibes.
To join us and find out the next event (painting and tea session!) click the following to join us!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1730585360508735
Tuesday, 19 April 2016
Always something.... to be thankful for
This is something I truly believe and manifest in...
Been 'spying' (not really la, they popped up on my FB wall) and noticed some ladies here are kinda depressed over something. It can be tough to face the reality and hard to put on that genuine smile.. but listen! There is always bound to have something to look forward to and be thankful for.
- What about the upcoming holiday you have saved up for months and finally going to experience some cool air?
- What about the gathering you and your girles have planned for to binge on that SUPER DUPER yummy food
- What about knowing someone you know will be discharged soon from hospital?
- What about knowing the parcel you ordered will soon arrive at your door step?
- What about knowing that your little poochie will welcome you wholeheartedly the moment you get home?
The list is long and toooooo long! We need to feel at peace and manifest good things in life. It is only then, you will only be able to find true happiness. After seeing the individual FB postings, the admins and I are even more determined to make Curvysta be successful and in hope we can change 1 or 2 'depressed' lady.
but while we are gearing towards that, we need to remind ourselves that there is ALWAYS ALWAYS something to be thankful for.
I honestly did not start out to be like this. I am a pessimistic and gawd... I find all ways to be upset. I am upset with my flat hair, I am upset with my small eyes, no dimple. I am upset with my double chin. I am even am upset with why my house is not like my gfs which is super neat and cosy. Then I realised something, OMG.... all these things I am upset about are manifested by me! It is true! Why so? It is because if I am upset with my hair, I can simply go to a hair salon and go a revamp hair cut, i have small eyes yes, but I failed to see how caucasions find my eyes exotic and unique! I have messy home because I did not come up with a system to clean my house! Everything started from me due to my pessimistic attitude! So what I do NOW is that I tend to find different angles to look at things and be happy about it! I must add though, that you need to be in the right group of people as they will help you gear towards positivity. This is important and when you start to sense they are more of a poison to you, you need to slowly take a step back, away from them...
It is a lot of work for beginners to feel positive and be happy about everything! But we try and we give ourselves some time to be a new person... I am alot more positive these days and I remind myself by reading loads of happy quotes and books and I think it helps! So come ladies! Try your best in finding an angle to be happy about today! What about mine you may ask? Mine's simple, I am thankful that I can sweat so much in just typing on this warm day. No seriously, I need to sweat out those water retention due to the meds and for this, I am REALLY thankful....
It is a lot of work for beginners to feel positive and be happy about everything! But we try and we give ourselves some time to be a new person... I am alot more positive these days and I remind myself by reading loads of happy quotes and books and I think it helps! So come ladies! Try your best in finding an angle to be happy about today! What about mine you may ask? Mine's simple, I am thankful that I can sweat so much in just typing on this warm day. No seriously, I need to sweat out those water retention due to the meds and for this, I am REALLY thankful....
Friday, 18 March 2016
Good morning ladies! Happy weekend is finally here isnt it?
Yesterday while driving to work, I turned up my favourite playlist and a particular song caught my attention. The song is 'Brave by Sara Bareilles'
I have a tendency to download songs that will remind/have a positive impact once I hear the songs. Last year was an extremely tough year for me and this song was one of the few songs tt I kept listening to in order to keep my spirits up.
Back to the car ride, I often wonder how it is for any curvy ladies to be able to withstand bully and stigma and constantly being joked at just because we are different in size. I get that alot from my slim friends and they kept laughing at me, telling me that it is just a joke and theres no harm to their 'fatty' jokes. I used to laugh it off but now I don't. I will nicely tell them that if they treat me as a friend, they ought to look beyond my physical size and look and TALK TO ME from inside. The real Kayde is NICE and REAL and LOVABLE, look past the size and then talk to me again, will you still say 'fatty jokes' again? I made my point nicely and confidently and often they finally understood what they did was hurtful instead of being cheeky (trust me, most of them do not know that they were being hurtful, they just thought it is funny, but we are better than that, we are classy and magnimanous)
Back to the song, I hope this is in your favourite play list as this song reminds me that in all areas in life, from work to personal to family etc, be brave and tell them how you feel. Even if you do not wish to tell them or explain, be brave FOR YOURSELF, calm your heart and tell yourself that it is okay and you can do better than them. Forgive them as they do not know you and your body well enough. Be brave and face the world again for the time on earth is pretty limited.
And here goes the lyrics, do take a read! I find it so meaningful...
You can be amazing
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody's lack of love
Or you can start speaking up
Nothing's gonna hurt you the way that words do
And they settle 'neath your skin
Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
But I wonder what would happen if you
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody's lack of love
Or you can start speaking up
Nothing's gonna hurt you the way that words do
And they settle 'neath your skin
Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
But I wonder what would happen if you
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
Everybody's been there, everybody's been stared down
By the enemy
Fallen for the fear and done some disappearing
Bow down to the mighty
Don't run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there's a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
Everybody's been there, everybody's been stared down
By the enemy
Fallen for the fear and done some disappearing
Bow down to the mighty
Don't run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there's a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
Innocence, your history of silence
Won't do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don't you tell them the truth?
Won't do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don't you tell them the truth?
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
See you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
See you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
Everybody's been there, everybody's been stared down
By the enemy
Fallen for the fear and done some disappearing
Bow down to the mighty
Don't run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there's a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is
By the enemy
Fallen for the fear and done some disappearing
Bow down to the mighty
Don't run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there's a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
Innocence, your history of silence
Won't do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don't you tell them the truth?
Won't do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don't you tell them the truth?
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
See you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
See you be brave
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
Is there songs that you have heard and find it inspiring? Tell us and we can always share! I have alot of songs in my playlist about reminding me to be grounded and true to myself, what about you? Share it with us! After all, this is a place where we ought to share nothing but good things!
Wednesday, 23 December 2015
Advertorial: PURE to the Power of Crystals
Hello ladies,
How exciting! This is technically my first advertorial post for a newly set up business. Pure to the Power of Crystals is owned by my dear friend, Karen and yes, when she asked me to do a advertorial on this product, I agreed! I have been using this special product since she started experimenting (we love it when we are the guinea piggos!) so its been approx 5 months since we have been using it. We got 1 time free trial, the rest we paid for it and has been using it because we love it! This product has since been introduced through word of mouth amongst our circle of friends and seems like they enjoy it as much as I do!
Pure to the Power of Crystals is owned by Karen and is a life coach, who has keen interest in alternative healing therapies and came across this form.
Hence, it was a natural progression (in my opinion) for her to start shifting her interest in 'potion' (i honestly dont know what is a better word) My dear friend here, being her 'everything must be the best she can be' she did alot of homework on coming up with various formulas and understanding the history and the properties FOR EACH INGREDIENT and the next we knew, her first trial batch arrived at my door step.
For now, she has completed 3 types of 'potion' namely Abundance, Magnetism and Self Love. She will be introducing more products in time to come!
Being in the business, naturally I am using alot of 1st two... So now you will ask me, what has it benefited me and what are the results? Did I really make tons of money after I spray them?
I honestly dont know how it works and I have no scientific proof to answer (maybe karen has it, ask her!) when Mr Ling asked me one day after me spritzing all over my body on whether if I truly believe in this product and show him the science behind it. I honestly DONT HAVE. But I did realise that everytime before I leave the house and spraying this potion all over my body, I keep manifesting that good things will happen to me and good sales will come because I deserve it for the hardwork put in and that I will face all obstables with positivity. And interestingly, when I stepped out of the house, I really feel good about the day ahead. In business, we literally get ups and downs everyday and it is very important for one self to feel good and feel grounded before we set out to our day to day duties.
Since I started using the spray (I also changed my mindset alot since early this year and I changed my lifestyle drastically) I realised that this spray makes me feel good and confident to step out to face the world again. I cannot explain the theory behind but for me to take a big lap of faith to take part in a prestigious fashion show recently is not my usual 'style' as I will be too afraid. I seemed to be attracting only good things now and even if I don't, I have the capacity to contain the emotion and keep moving on. It has now become a habit and I wont go out without it. I have the 3 blends on my make up desk at this moment and one in my travel pouch. Whenever I feel down, I spray it all over me. It reminded me back to my purpose in spraying it and that is to look forward to new and beautiful opportunities...
And for those who may be keen, I particularly want to introduce self love. It is believed that using the spray helps to give the strength of taking care of oneself and helps to heal the pain of being hurt by others especially negative things said by others... (like the upcoming festive period on why you have not lost the weight or why are you still not pregnant, or why you haven't gotten down to your second child?)
It is very important to understand how special we are and no one can strip us down to our lowest through verbal abuse. I know many girls have this experience and it does pains us to witness how cruel people are towards us plus size girls. Self Love is a good choice to those who wish to make a stand for herself. Everyone deserves to be loved and be treasured yes? And for sel love, there is a nice unique rose and geranium essential oils inside and yes, these top grade essential oils are very pricey and Karen was extremely generous in her concoction..
There is 2 versions of these potions, with alcohol and without and you may ask Karen for more info on the difference and she will be able to fill you up on the details....
So there, now that you have read about my take on the cute 'magical' uplifting sprays, why dont you try it? You may try their small bottles (30ml) first in ala carte form or you may wish to take their promotion pack!
Pure to the Power of Crystals potions are available for sale and doing a Xmas promotion right now, do click on her fanpage and understand more about this product! For orders and information on Pure to the Power of Crystals click here >>> Pure to the Power of Crystals
How exciting! This is technically my first advertorial post for a newly set up business. Pure to the Power of Crystals is owned by my dear friend, Karen and yes, when she asked me to do a advertorial on this product, I agreed! I have been using this special product since she started experimenting (we love it when we are the guinea piggos!) so its been approx 5 months since we have been using it. We got 1 time free trial, the rest we paid for it and has been using it because we love it! This product has since been introduced through word of mouth amongst our circle of friends and seems like they enjoy it as much as I do!
Pure to the Power of Crystals is owned by Karen and is a life coach, who has keen interest in alternative healing therapies and came across this form.
Hence, it was a natural progression (in my opinion) for her to start shifting her interest in 'potion' (i honestly dont know what is a better word) My dear friend here, being her 'everything must be the best she can be' she did alot of homework on coming up with various formulas and understanding the history and the properties FOR EACH INGREDIENT and the next we knew, her first trial batch arrived at my door step.
For now, she has completed 3 types of 'potion' namely Abundance, Magnetism and Self Love. She will be introducing more products in time to come!
Being in the business, naturally I am using alot of 1st two... So now you will ask me, what has it benefited me and what are the results? Did I really make tons of money after I spray them?
My answer is: I don't know.
I honestly dont know how it works and I have no scientific proof to answer (maybe karen has it, ask her!) when Mr Ling asked me one day after me spritzing all over my body on whether if I truly believe in this product and show him the science behind it. I honestly DONT HAVE. But I did realise that everytime before I leave the house and spraying this potion all over my body, I keep manifesting that good things will happen to me and good sales will come because I deserve it for the hardwork put in and that I will face all obstables with positivity. And interestingly, when I stepped out of the house, I really feel good about the day ahead. In business, we literally get ups and downs everyday and it is very important for one self to feel good and feel grounded before we set out to our day to day duties.
Since I started using the spray (I also changed my mindset alot since early this year and I changed my lifestyle drastically) I realised that this spray makes me feel good and confident to step out to face the world again. I cannot explain the theory behind but for me to take a big lap of faith to take part in a prestigious fashion show recently is not my usual 'style' as I will be too afraid. I seemed to be attracting only good things now and even if I don't, I have the capacity to contain the emotion and keep moving on. It has now become a habit and I wont go out without it. I have the 3 blends on my make up desk at this moment and one in my travel pouch. Whenever I feel down, I spray it all over me. It reminded me back to my purpose in spraying it and that is to look forward to new and beautiful opportunities...
And for those who may be keen, I particularly want to introduce self love. It is believed that using the spray helps to give the strength of taking care of oneself and helps to heal the pain of being hurt by others especially negative things said by others... (like the upcoming festive period on why you have not lost the weight or why are you still not pregnant, or why you haven't gotten down to your second child?)
It is very important to understand how special we are and no one can strip us down to our lowest through verbal abuse. I know many girls have this experience and it does pains us to witness how cruel people are towards us plus size girls. Self Love is a good choice to those who wish to make a stand for herself. Everyone deserves to be loved and be treasured yes? And for sel love, there is a nice unique rose and geranium essential oils inside and yes, these top grade essential oils are very pricey and Karen was extremely generous in her concoction..
There is 2 versions of these potions, with alcohol and without and you may ask Karen for more info on the difference and she will be able to fill you up on the details....
So there, now that you have read about my take on the cute 'magical' uplifting sprays, why dont you try it? You may try their small bottles (30ml) first in ala carte form or you may wish to take their promotion pack!
Pure to the Power of Crystals potions are available for sale and doing a Xmas promotion right now, do click on her fanpage and understand more about this product! For orders and information on Pure to the Power of Crystals click here >>> Pure to the Power of Crystals
Thursday, 17 December 2015
2015, How I love and hate you...
Been thinking about typing this and really didn't wish to find myself reading this again one day... But Mr Ling reminded me that I need to responsible to people who believed in me and trusted me and the brand. I asked him what are the consequences on this blogpost and all he replied calmly was 'I don't see any consequences at all'
2015.... has been a very difficult roller coaster ride. As much as I try to be positive about it, it does sting (maybe the hurt is still 'raw') from time to time again. Theres just so much to talk about for 2015 and all are squashed up in my brains, hence I decided that I will put them in order for easy reading...
If any one of you recalled 2014 December, I made an announcement that I will pull out from Big Box. This huge investment (for small timers like me) has led me into an approximate of $60,000 debt. I used to be so happy and confident with no financial stress. Well, it wasn't a lot, but definitely not in the red. It was a very painful period where suppliers chased me every week for money and all I could think of how to find money. Mr Ling helped me tremendously ( I really cannot ask for more already, he helped me too much) and was my pillar of support. I did managed to pull through and in 2015 February, I was so thankful that I paid up 90percent of my debt in a mere short 1.5 months.
But happiness didn't last too long. By March, I had to make an important decision as to whether I had to leave Far East Plaza or to venture new space. Mr Ling and I did all the calculation and thought out the risk. I am extremely sensitive to the plus size industry in Singapore (and I work darn hard by doing loads of reading and forecasts) so I KNEW that moving out to Far East Plaza was necessary. I needed to improve on my selection of apparels and products because I knew that my promise to customers on improving Kaylene was way overdued. I needed to make a decision to take another round of painful and tiring round of 'financial depletion in our bank account'
July was the kick off for 38A Seah Street. Remember I barely cleared off the RED zone only in Feb, how am I to produce additional 2.5times of the stocks just to sustain for the 1 month launch? A little info incase you are not aware, our boutique has expanded from 375sq ft unit to a 1772 sq ft space. Can you imagine how much of investments I needed to put in to make sure that I can fulfil customers needs and wants? Again I was back in the RED. Oh my gosh, for someone who has been comfortable with finance to 2 reds in less than 6 months, It was a freaking big deal for me. I couldn't take it, I knew it was necessary but my mind was not in the right state at that point. Mental wise I wasn't in the best shape.
Shortly after, in September, I pulled myself out of this and I was so proud of saying it is time to build up the finance all over again. I was so ready to go and then came an email which I LOVE and HATE so much. Mercedes-Benz STLYO Asia Fashion Week invited me to showcase our work in KL. For those who are unaware, it is a FREAKING BIG DEAL for indie plus size shop like me. Kaylene for the ONLY plus size boutique to represent on the main stage (YES, not small stage) and it is almost every designers dream, and that is to showcase the works to the rest of the world. BUT BUT BUT, I barely recovered from my finance! Mr Ling once again told me that this is something which we will never get a 2nd chance. I thought about how much this project can increase Kaylene's portfolio and bring the brand to the next level. You may say I am silly and theres no need to brand Kaylene at this point of time. But no, in my honest opinion. The whole 8 years journey to what we have achieved this far was only to ensure that there is a value add to all customers. To us, branding is part of value adding to our customers and because of this, I took up the project which estimated to cost $12,000.
During this period, I was diagnosed with 2 things, pre cancerous cells were found and also 'unidentified cells' The doctor told me that I had to do MRI scan immediately and gosh those are a hell lot of moolah. I just kept paying and paying. Yes, I have insurance, but upfront cash first remember? Again, allow me to highlight that I was barely afloat for my finance.. Thank God, the results shown that there was no cancers spread to other parts of my body (I don't really know why he said those) but I needed to continue to fix my pre cancerous cells. Medication and further D and C (some day procedure) is needed.
Today is December that that simply summarised the whole year I have gone through. It is really scary roller coaster and sometimes I wonder why the heck I have to go through all these. But I thought hard about it. These were necessary moves for the better of everyone. It is painful, but definitely for the better.
I had learnt a lot from this years of lesson actually and I am so glad I have realised these despite the crazy stress I have. I have learnt that I have an extremely wonderful team and family to stand by me. I remembered declaring this to my girls just 1 day before the official VIP party, 'Girls, I have $296 left in my bank as of till today. I don't know how I am going to make it work, but lets do it' They told me that they will stand by me and work damn hard to ensure I will cover back all the 'losses' in no time. And they did honour their words. My family is best too, they helped my financially and kept telling me that everything is going to be fine... This is something not everyone gets to hear and I am extremely thankful for that. I also learnt that I have a super wonderful husband who didn't judge me and my decisions. We were so broke once till we joked who has the lesser digits in our bank account. For him to go through this with me, I sometimes find it embaressing to be his wife.
The important thing I have learnt about this 2015 journey is that I am stronger than I think I am. And I tell you, whoever is reading this and going through whatever painful circumstance you encounter, TRUST ME, you can overcome it and you are stronger than you think. I know my story may not be terrible enough etc, but everyone has their own 'terrible' moments. If I am to compare to someone who is dying with illness, I am considered very fortunate and I KNOW THAT. So to whom may be going through tough times, You are a lot stronger than you think. It is times like this, then you will know how incredible you are. Last but not the least, I found that despite all the financial difficulties I have finally pulled through (yes, I have conquered the debts, well except Mr Lings, give me a few more weeks babe!) we still managed to give back. I know I don't have big budget to do it, but every single bit counts. This year we are not doing 1 but two charity donations (together with friends like Prissy from Pristique Make Up Artistry and Karen from Pure to the Power of Crystals.) It was purely by chance I got a way to help little children in Cambodia! It must be God's calling or something, because the opportunity to give back was through a customer!
So there, this is my 2015. What was yours like? After typing this blog post, I will be preparing myself for 2016 forecast. I am so determined not to go through a '2015' again and I am so going to make sure it wont happen again! For it is time for my staffs to stop worrying for me, anxious for me. For it is time for me to start really understanding what life is all about and not run like a headless chicken.. I am going to make it things change and I know I will be able to do it. So now the question is, 'will you stay with me and ride through 2016 and do you trust that I can make it through this upcoming year?
Before I sign off, remember that you are stronger than you think, more awesome than you believe and more beautiful than you think...
Kayde Ling
2015.... has been a very difficult roller coaster ride. As much as I try to be positive about it, it does sting (maybe the hurt is still 'raw') from time to time again. Theres just so much to talk about for 2015 and all are squashed up in my brains, hence I decided that I will put them in order for easy reading...
If any one of you recalled 2014 December, I made an announcement that I will pull out from Big Box. This huge investment (for small timers like me) has led me into an approximate of $60,000 debt. I used to be so happy and confident with no financial stress. Well, it wasn't a lot, but definitely not in the red. It was a very painful period where suppliers chased me every week for money and all I could think of how to find money. Mr Ling helped me tremendously ( I really cannot ask for more already, he helped me too much) and was my pillar of support. I did managed to pull through and in 2015 February, I was so thankful that I paid up 90percent of my debt in a mere short 1.5 months.
But happiness didn't last too long. By March, I had to make an important decision as to whether I had to leave Far East Plaza or to venture new space. Mr Ling and I did all the calculation and thought out the risk. I am extremely sensitive to the plus size industry in Singapore (and I work darn hard by doing loads of reading and forecasts) so I KNEW that moving out to Far East Plaza was necessary. I needed to improve on my selection of apparels and products because I knew that my promise to customers on improving Kaylene was way overdued. I needed to make a decision to take another round of painful and tiring round of 'financial depletion in our bank account'
July was the kick off for 38A Seah Street. Remember I barely cleared off the RED zone only in Feb, how am I to produce additional 2.5times of the stocks just to sustain for the 1 month launch? A little info incase you are not aware, our boutique has expanded from 375sq ft unit to a 1772 sq ft space. Can you imagine how much of investments I needed to put in to make sure that I can fulfil customers needs and wants? Again I was back in the RED. Oh my gosh, for someone who has been comfortable with finance to 2 reds in less than 6 months, It was a freaking big deal for me. I couldn't take it, I knew it was necessary but my mind was not in the right state at that point. Mental wise I wasn't in the best shape.
Shortly after, in September, I pulled myself out of this and I was so proud of saying it is time to build up the finance all over again. I was so ready to go and then came an email which I LOVE and HATE so much. Mercedes-Benz STLYO Asia Fashion Week invited me to showcase our work in KL. For those who are unaware, it is a FREAKING BIG DEAL for indie plus size shop like me. Kaylene for the ONLY plus size boutique to represent on the main stage (YES, not small stage) and it is almost every designers dream, and that is to showcase the works to the rest of the world. BUT BUT BUT, I barely recovered from my finance! Mr Ling once again told me that this is something which we will never get a 2nd chance. I thought about how much this project can increase Kaylene's portfolio and bring the brand to the next level. You may say I am silly and theres no need to brand Kaylene at this point of time. But no, in my honest opinion. The whole 8 years journey to what we have achieved this far was only to ensure that there is a value add to all customers. To us, branding is part of value adding to our customers and because of this, I took up the project which estimated to cost $12,000.
During this period, I was diagnosed with 2 things, pre cancerous cells were found and also 'unidentified cells' The doctor told me that I had to do MRI scan immediately and gosh those are a hell lot of moolah. I just kept paying and paying. Yes, I have insurance, but upfront cash first remember? Again, allow me to highlight that I was barely afloat for my finance.. Thank God, the results shown that there was no cancers spread to other parts of my body (I don't really know why he said those) but I needed to continue to fix my pre cancerous cells. Medication and further D and C (some day procedure) is needed.
Today is December that that simply summarised the whole year I have gone through. It is really scary roller coaster and sometimes I wonder why the heck I have to go through all these. But I thought hard about it. These were necessary moves for the better of everyone. It is painful, but definitely for the better.
I had learnt a lot from this years of lesson actually and I am so glad I have realised these despite the crazy stress I have. I have learnt that I have an extremely wonderful team and family to stand by me. I remembered declaring this to my girls just 1 day before the official VIP party, 'Girls, I have $296 left in my bank as of till today. I don't know how I am going to make it work, but lets do it' They told me that they will stand by me and work damn hard to ensure I will cover back all the 'losses' in no time. And they did honour their words. My family is best too, they helped my financially and kept telling me that everything is going to be fine... This is something not everyone gets to hear and I am extremely thankful for that. I also learnt that I have a super wonderful husband who didn't judge me and my decisions. We were so broke once till we joked who has the lesser digits in our bank account. For him to go through this with me, I sometimes find it embaressing to be his wife.
The important thing I have learnt about this 2015 journey is that I am stronger than I think I am. And I tell you, whoever is reading this and going through whatever painful circumstance you encounter, TRUST ME, you can overcome it and you are stronger than you think. I know my story may not be terrible enough etc, but everyone has their own 'terrible' moments. If I am to compare to someone who is dying with illness, I am considered very fortunate and I KNOW THAT. So to whom may be going through tough times, You are a lot stronger than you think. It is times like this, then you will know how incredible you are. Last but not the least, I found that despite all the financial difficulties I have finally pulled through (yes, I have conquered the debts, well except Mr Lings, give me a few more weeks babe!) we still managed to give back. I know I don't have big budget to do it, but every single bit counts. This year we are not doing 1 but two charity donations (together with friends like Prissy from Pristique Make Up Artistry and Karen from Pure to the Power of Crystals.) It was purely by chance I got a way to help little children in Cambodia! It must be God's calling or something, because the opportunity to give back was through a customer!
So there, this is my 2015. What was yours like? After typing this blog post, I will be preparing myself for 2016 forecast. I am so determined not to go through a '2015' again and I am so going to make sure it wont happen again! For it is time for my staffs to stop worrying for me, anxious for me. For it is time for me to start really understanding what life is all about and not run like a headless chicken.. I am going to make it things change and I know I will be able to do it. So now the question is, 'will you stay with me and ride through 2016 and do you trust that I can make it through this upcoming year?
Before I sign off, remember that you are stronger than you think, more awesome than you believe and more beautiful than you think...
Kayde Ling
Monday, 16 November 2015
New LOGO, New Beginning for Kaylene - Plus Size Designer Boutique
Well, theres been a slight delay...... when I decided to change logo upon moving to the new unit. To be honest, I had advice from a wise lady and she advised me to give the company a fresh start since I am moving to a brand new place! I thought to myself, 'since it has been a tiring 2 years and that I have taken a big jump on this expansion, I might as well follow her advice!"
I really couldnt think of anything that will suit the brand new Kaylene because I didnt know how else I could make the logo look good with a 'hourglass (must be) in the logo' I mean, how did an hourglass has in relation to my brand? I wear plus size apparels! I thought hard about it and decided that maybe a plus size mannequin can replace the hourglass! I asked for approval and the next I know I decided to zoom straight into coming up with a logo with a mannequin...
I figured and doodled, ouuuu mai gosh.. it was tough and I got no inspiration. I was so desperate and that was when I decided to ask for help. I got 2 professionals for help on seperate occasion and it still wasnt speaking to me. There wasnt a nice 'ooomph' feel to it. It was not getting anywhere and some samples here for you to understand why I thought it wasnt 'the one'
I was that close to pulling my hair off because time was running out! How can i go to the upcoming Mercedes Benz STYLO Asia Fashion Week 2015 without a logo? I was really stressed out. The name cards, the printouts, the stand up banner all needed a new logo... I was on a brink of giving up when one day it just happened. As crazy as it sounds, it was as though the universe heard my desperation and decided to give me some help! I was staring on my notepad and miraculously I just started to draw....
I was very clear with what I want. I want my mannequin to be dressed in a nice flowy dress because this is our signature! Kaylene is all about flow and sass! I added a globe because I wanted a representation and reminder that Kaylene - Plus Size Designer Boutiquue deserves to have a international presence and attention. The rest were simple, Firm fonts with clean words, clear to read.
With the clear direction I had in mind and approval, I engaged the 2nd designer again to help on making my logo into reality. In the end, I made some final tweaking and viola! A brand new logo has born...
I hope this brand new logo will enhance and have a better representation on the brand. Let's grow Kaylene - Plus Size Designer Boutique and bring her to greater heights! Let her shine bright across the globe so that more will be able to dress pretty and be confident!
I really couldnt think of anything that will suit the brand new Kaylene because I didnt know how else I could make the logo look good with a 'hourglass (must be) in the logo' I mean, how did an hourglass has in relation to my brand? I wear plus size apparels! I thought hard about it and decided that maybe a plus size mannequin can replace the hourglass! I asked for approval and the next I know I decided to zoom straight into coming up with a logo with a mannequin...
I figured and doodled, ouuuu mai gosh.. it was tough and I got no inspiration. I was so desperate and that was when I decided to ask for help. I got 2 professionals for help on seperate occasion and it still wasnt speaking to me. There wasnt a nice 'ooomph' feel to it. It was not getting anywhere and some samples here for you to understand why I thought it wasnt 'the one'
I was that close to pulling my hair off because time was running out! How can i go to the upcoming Mercedes Benz STYLO Asia Fashion Week 2015 without a logo? I was really stressed out. The name cards, the printouts, the stand up banner all needed a new logo... I was on a brink of giving up when one day it just happened. As crazy as it sounds, it was as though the universe heard my desperation and decided to give me some help! I was staring on my notepad and miraculously I just started to draw....
I was very clear with what I want. I want my mannequin to be dressed in a nice flowy dress because this is our signature! Kaylene is all about flow and sass! I added a globe because I wanted a representation and reminder that Kaylene - Plus Size Designer Boutiquue deserves to have a international presence and attention. The rest were simple, Firm fonts with clean words, clear to read.
With the clear direction I had in mind and approval, I engaged the 2nd designer again to help on making my logo into reality. In the end, I made some final tweaking and viola! A brand new logo has born...
I hope this brand new logo will enhance and have a better representation on the brand. Let's grow Kaylene - Plus Size Designer Boutique and bring her to greater heights! Let her shine bright across the globe so that more will be able to dress pretty and be confident!
Tuesday, 15 September 2015
Casting Call - Mercedes-Benz STYLO Asia Fashion Week - 4 to 7 November 2015, Kuala Lumpur
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AND YES, WE FINALLY GOT THE DETAILS!
I recently got back from my business trip and oh my gosh, the response for the catwalk is OVERWHELMING, incredible ladies! Thanks to many wonderful support from Ratna (Adevi Clothing), Aarti (Curvesbecomeher), business friends from Kuala Lumpur, ladies from Kagumi Group, the word spread and yes, there are so many plus size ladies on fire and want to be on stage to make a presence in the fashion industry! Thank you ladies, you are soooo kind and too kind to us!
The ladies from Kagumi are TOO WELL CONNECTED! They were so kind to introduce me to a celebrity in KL and after exchanging conversations, she would like to hop on and help us out!
I am so thankful for the support and indeed blessed. After a late night meeting yesterday, we have concluded that this event is toooo important to even just 'pick some girls and go'. We need the highest calibre of girls who knows how to be able to handgle hundred of people staring at them while they take on the stage. This casting call is absolutely necessary and yes, from this event, we will be on a lookout for Kaylene's next face as well. Same rule applies for our product shoot model; she has to own the 'stage' and give us specific looks for the product shoot.
For this project, I have been humbled by Cate Lim and Prissy to lend a hand on the casting call. They will be your 'big sisters' for this project and giving you tips and training (we will fly to KL and get trainings there and give back to the selected models) to make sure you will be equipped and ready for the final big walk.
***KINDLY note that for the KL ladies who are keen in this walk, there WILL BE ANOTHER CASTING CALL with a celebrity and cheorographer in Kuala Lumpur. The dates will further announce for the KL LADIES yes?
For those who are keen in taking a bold step, kindly wadsap kayde at 94777028 on the time you will arrive to prevent a sudden influx of ladies and long wait.
Are you one of the 15 to rock the stage in Malaysia for Mercedes-Benz STYLO Asia Fashion Week 2015? Are you the one?
Tuesday, 8 September 2015
Opportunity only knocks once.... right?
Hello ladies!
Last week was indeed a week of Highs and Lows for Kaylene and myself...
First:
We had some production issues and I had to make the painful decisions to reject the goodies to retouch on them in order to make sure you girls get the best pieces. Some of the designs will be delayed but we are positive you girls will fall in love with them instantly the moment you see the images.
Second:
My day surgery (it was no incision procedure) went well but the report didnt come too good. I did my crying already and I am ready to embrace what I was given. It sucked isnt it? At times like this, I am scheduled to do MRI soon and pray nothing more will happen that what I have already found out. Don't worry about me, I am under medication and I have already told the girls to cut down my schedule drastically in order to be able to change my lifestyle. During this period I may encounter fatigue and irrational moods as side effects so I ernestly hope you can bear with me if I am not up to service to you.
Third:
I finally paid off my HUGE LAST debt incurred during the massive move to 38A Seah Street! I am now back to ZERO again but then I told myself it is okay, all the planning and decision for the move was calculated. I could finally say it is time to rebuild the finances when I received an email....
Fourth:
I am invited to showcase KAYLENE in
In case you are not familiar.... this fashion show is DA FASHION SHOW OF THE FASHON SHOWS LA!!!!!! Okay, maybe not, but definitely one of the most high profile ones.
About this show....
Another link on Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week
From my understanding MBSTYLOAFW will be held during Malaysia Fashion Week. Isnt it cooool? Mr Jimmy Choo will be involved in this show too and he will be selecting 3 of his favourite designers to London and be mentored by him! Wooot~
To be honest, when I got the email, I threw my mouse and it flung a few centimetres away from me.... I WAS SO BL****Y ANGRY!!! Why?
Because just when I am all broke and ready to build this Kaylene's funds back to normal again, I have to be invited of ALL times to take part in this show. I was FURIOUS! I felt why God has to be so cheeky and made fun of me. I was really upset because I really wanted to focus on my health too. So I texted Mr Ling and he simply replied:
Yes, I know many of you will say it is an opportunity not to be missed. I also know! I am willing to eat bread just to be able to bring PLUS SIZE FASHION onto the main stage and above all, ITS MERCEDES-BENZ LA!
This show is not free, we estimate a total of 5 figure to complete this event. AND just when I am ready to eat bread, I was informed that...
Yes. I did my calculations, I have just enough to bring Kaylene to the show, I do not have capacity to bring 15 models to KL for the show. So far, I have 4 volunteers from Singapore and they are willing to fork out for their own. I am eternally grateful for these wonderful girls. I still need 11 ladies. To cut the story short, I am in desperate need to look for:
1) girls who are plus size and knows how to rock the stage (there will be training we promise but confidence is something that comes from within which cannot be trained overnight)
2) girls who is willing to come to KL for 2 days (1 day for actual show and 1 day for the briefing and training and fitting)
3) girls who can pay for their own trip. I am seriously very embaressed about this but I really need help in this. The math is simple, no show = no models, no models = no show = no way to show the world that plus size models exist, plus size clothing industry. I have done all I can to try do the sums but we know it is really impossible for now.
4) girls who are willing to have Kaylene vouchers (amount yet decide) as a token of appreciation.
5) girls FROM KUALA LUMPUR!!!!! We need you! We really need more girls from KL so that we can reduce the stress for the model head count.
6) We are looking for 10 models from bust 42 to bust 52 (approx UK 12/14 to 20/22)
I know it sounds really crazy and ridiculous, if you know anyone who believes in Kaylene, in the plus size industry and is as affectionate as we are, please recommend them to us. Get them to email us at kayleneonline@gmail.com with header 'Mercedes-Benz Fashion Show Models'
Please help spread the word. This show is really our 1 golden ticket to showcase to the world that plus size designer exist and that we are capable of modelling and dressing up!
I know many will ask me just like my fellow designer friend Khun Wat, he asked me to wait till next year. After serious consideration, my reply to him was 'Opportunity only knocks once, right?' Do you agree with me? Do you want to embark this journey with me? Do you believe you can rock the stage, potentially the first in Asia?
Last week was indeed a week of Highs and Lows for Kaylene and myself...
First:
We had some production issues and I had to make the painful decisions to reject the goodies to retouch on them in order to make sure you girls get the best pieces. Some of the designs will be delayed but we are positive you girls will fall in love with them instantly the moment you see the images.
Second:
My day surgery (it was no incision procedure) went well but the report didnt come too good. I did my crying already and I am ready to embrace what I was given. It sucked isnt it? At times like this, I am scheduled to do MRI soon and pray nothing more will happen that what I have already found out. Don't worry about me, I am under medication and I have already told the girls to cut down my schedule drastically in order to be able to change my lifestyle. During this period I may encounter fatigue and irrational moods as side effects so I ernestly hope you can bear with me if I am not up to service to you.
Third:
I finally paid off my HUGE LAST debt incurred during the massive move to 38A Seah Street! I am now back to ZERO again but then I told myself it is okay, all the planning and decision for the move was calculated. I could finally say it is time to rebuild the finances when I received an email....
Fourth:
I am invited to showcase KAYLENE in
In case you are not familiar.... this fashion show is DA FASHION SHOW OF THE FASHON SHOWS LA!!!!!! Okay, maybe not, but definitely one of the most high profile ones.
About this show....
Mercedes Benz STYLO Asia Fashion Week
The Mercedes Benz STYLO Asia Fashion Week is the first ever Asia wide
collaboration of top emerging designers in the one media event, taking
place once a year in each Asian host city. The event is a collaboration
of 12 official fashion associations across Asia, with the likes of
China, Korea, Japan, India, Hong Kong, Singapore, Thailand, Indonesia,
Philippines, Malaysia, Taiwan, and Vietnam, showcasing their best
designers in one central location. This international platform also
plays hosts to the top buyers, media, editors, retailers, celebrities
and VIPs from around the world.
Asia – The 5th fashion capital of the world.
Another link on Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week
From my understanding MBSTYLOAFW will be held during Malaysia Fashion Week. Isnt it cooool? Mr Jimmy Choo will be involved in this show too and he will be selecting 3 of his favourite designers to London and be mentored by him! Wooot~
To be honest, when I got the email, I threw my mouse and it flung a few centimetres away from me.... I WAS SO BL****Y ANGRY!!! Why?
Because just when I am all broke and ready to build this Kaylene's funds back to normal again, I have to be invited of ALL times to take part in this show. I was FURIOUS! I felt why God has to be so cheeky and made fun of me. I was really upset because I really wanted to focus on my health too. So I texted Mr Ling and he simply replied:
'Good. isnt it a good news?' 'Didnt you always dream of being in such big scale show?'
Yes, I know many of you will say it is an opportunity not to be missed. I also know! I am willing to eat bread just to be able to bring PLUS SIZE FASHION onto the main stage and above all, ITS MERCEDES-BENZ LA!
This show is not free, we estimate a total of 5 figure to complete this event. AND just when I am ready to eat bread, I was informed that...
There is no plus size models for me for this show
I honestly do not blame or peeved with them. Because we potentially are THE ONLY plus size (till date) to showcase to the world (there will be guests from Asia including Japan, Korea, Middle East, Europe) and it does not make sense for them to hunt plus size models for us. Yeah, you got it right, Again another expenditure.... I spoke to Mr Ling about it and he was thinking why not get help from you ladies. because it is a very prestigious event to be part of and for those aspiring models, it will be a dream come true for them as well. The problem is this.
I do not have enough funds to sponsor my 15 models
Yes. I did my calculations, I have just enough to bring Kaylene to the show, I do not have capacity to bring 15 models to KL for the show. So far, I have 4 volunteers from Singapore and they are willing to fork out for their own. I am eternally grateful for these wonderful girls. I still need 11 ladies. To cut the story short, I am in desperate need to look for:
1) girls who are plus size and knows how to rock the stage (there will be training we promise but confidence is something that comes from within which cannot be trained overnight)
2) girls who is willing to come to KL for 2 days (1 day for actual show and 1 day for the briefing and training and fitting)
3) girls who can pay for their own trip. I am seriously very embaressed about this but I really need help in this. The math is simple, no show = no models, no models = no show = no way to show the world that plus size models exist, plus size clothing industry. I have done all I can to try do the sums but we know it is really impossible for now.
4) girls who are willing to have Kaylene vouchers (amount yet decide) as a token of appreciation.
5) girls FROM KUALA LUMPUR!!!!! We need you! We really need more girls from KL so that we can reduce the stress for the model head count.
6) We are looking for 10 models from bust 42 to bust 52 (approx UK 12/14 to 20/22)
I know it sounds really crazy and ridiculous, if you know anyone who believes in Kaylene, in the plus size industry and is as affectionate as we are, please recommend them to us. Get them to email us at kayleneonline@gmail.com with header 'Mercedes-Benz Fashion Show Models'
Please help spread the word. This show is really our 1 golden ticket to showcase to the world that plus size designer exist and that we are capable of modelling and dressing up!
I know many will ask me just like my fellow designer friend Khun Wat, he asked me to wait till next year. After serious consideration, my reply to him was 'Opportunity only knocks once, right?' Do you agree with me? Do you want to embark this journey with me? Do you believe you can rock the stage, potentially the first in Asia?
Tuesday, 25 August 2015
Updates on Kaylene
Hello ladies! Its been a good 2 months since I posted something here and I thought since tonight I am nursing this very odd gastric (I took pills in hope it will be okay) and I cannot sleep, I might as well do a blog post now!
Since 19th July when Kaylene - Plus Size Designer Boutique has reopened her doors to you, we have been settling down pretty fast. It was really crazy and almost everyday we worked really hard to make sure things will settle down ASAP. Stocks arrangements is one huge issue on top of the massive stock take. Preparing for our online sales is also another issue. We STILL are lacking some vital tools to complete the unit but for now we are counting our blessings in every possible ways. Afterall, one step at a time right?
I have been in the shop almost everyday since early July and yes thank God for awesome people, past few weeks was good, I get to have 2 days rest (but I dont 'rest rest'... how is it EVER possible?! Not complaining though... enjoying max!) Things are really settling and during these period, we constantly asked customers if they liked the new premise. Their response? They LOVE it. The only glitche to this beautiful place is that we have a flight of steps and customers find it tiring... I know ladies! It is tiring, but this is the best place we can find. Although they hate the steps, the moment they enter this spacious unit, they melt. In this gorgeous place, we have ample space to relax and rest with refreshments like Nespresso coffee machine, soft drinks, water and even 2 huge bowls of sweets and chocolates! We have solved the aircon issue and had fixed up fans and now the boutique is so much cooler, sometimes even cold... All are really falling into places and I am very thankful for that.
Stocks wise has been more or less been settled as well as now we have firmed up with new factories to produce more pieces for our customers. We HEAR you requests too, by increasing our sizes from XS to XXXL which is a whopping 7 sizes! It is indeed a big deal from the old 4 sizes to now 7 sizes.. Increasing sizes is not a fun thing to do although we felt it was extremely necessary. Increasing sizes actually means we have to increase our quantity per designs and it can be really tormenting in terms of the budget. The Kaylene Babes and I ALWAYS debate on this issue but in the end we really felt it was necessary to work on 7 sizes in order to cater to the needs of a plus size lady. We have significantly cut down on 'Free Sizes' as we do feel that it is not true one size fits all.... It is not easy! But we are weaning off, bit by bit, step by step...
Finance wise, hmmm... lets just say we are very thankful for very good suppliers and factories who allowed us to clear of bills bit by bit. While I am still having a huge load of bills that yet to be paid, it is heartwarming to know that I am almost debt free soon... I just need a couple of weeks and I believe I can clear up all the $$$... Except my boss.. his bill... has to wait a little longer la! But on a serious note.... Thank God I am clearing off these huge debts in no time and I am so looking forward to a fresh new start! In case you are wondering, YES it takes alot of money to build this brand new place. With higher rental, higher electricity, doubled increase in stocks and more and more money spent on our designs, it is unavoidable to incurr a debt. But we are positive with it and hence still went ahead with the expansion despite the prediction of this problem.
So you can see, things ARE REALLY falling into place and I am loving this place. Kaylene is now a respectable plus size designer boutique with ladies across the globe visiting us. In just 1 week, we have tourists from Germany, Indonesia and Australia! How awesome is that? We are counting our blessings though, proud of the achievements but humbled by the opportunities given...
Thank you for being such a wonderful person supporting us all the way. You indeed has seen us grow and through your love stretched us into making ourselves better for you. For the new customers, Thank you for trusting us and allowing us to dress you. This is extremely heartwarming to know and we will keep working on impressing you with our designs. We want to let you know that it is you who makes us evolve to where we are today. We aim to impress you with our own designs and match your status. Because we know you are unique and special and we want to do this together with you... Thank you once again for all that goodness that is happening upon us.
(okay, I need to rest. This gastro meds IS NOT working...))
Till then ladies!
Good night!
Since 19th July when Kaylene - Plus Size Designer Boutique has reopened her doors to you, we have been settling down pretty fast. It was really crazy and almost everyday we worked really hard to make sure things will settle down ASAP. Stocks arrangements is one huge issue on top of the massive stock take. Preparing for our online sales is also another issue. We STILL are lacking some vital tools to complete the unit but for now we are counting our blessings in every possible ways. Afterall, one step at a time right?
I have been in the shop almost everyday since early July and yes thank God for awesome people, past few weeks was good, I get to have 2 days rest (but I dont 'rest rest'... how is it EVER possible?! Not complaining though... enjoying max!) Things are really settling and during these period, we constantly asked customers if they liked the new premise. Their response? They LOVE it. The only glitche to this beautiful place is that we have a flight of steps and customers find it tiring... I know ladies! It is tiring, but this is the best place we can find. Although they hate the steps, the moment they enter this spacious unit, they melt. In this gorgeous place, we have ample space to relax and rest with refreshments like Nespresso coffee machine, soft drinks, water and even 2 huge bowls of sweets and chocolates! We have solved the aircon issue and had fixed up fans and now the boutique is so much cooler, sometimes even cold... All are really falling into places and I am very thankful for that.
Stocks wise has been more or less been settled as well as now we have firmed up with new factories to produce more pieces for our customers. We HEAR you requests too, by increasing our sizes from XS to XXXL which is a whopping 7 sizes! It is indeed a big deal from the old 4 sizes to now 7 sizes.. Increasing sizes is not a fun thing to do although we felt it was extremely necessary. Increasing sizes actually means we have to increase our quantity per designs and it can be really tormenting in terms of the budget. The Kaylene Babes and I ALWAYS debate on this issue but in the end we really felt it was necessary to work on 7 sizes in order to cater to the needs of a plus size lady. We have significantly cut down on 'Free Sizes' as we do feel that it is not true one size fits all.... It is not easy! But we are weaning off, bit by bit, step by step...
Finance wise, hmmm... lets just say we are very thankful for very good suppliers and factories who allowed us to clear of bills bit by bit. While I am still having a huge load of bills that yet to be paid, it is heartwarming to know that I am almost debt free soon... I just need a couple of weeks and I believe I can clear up all the $$$... Except my boss.. his bill... has to wait a little longer la! But on a serious note.... Thank God I am clearing off these huge debts in no time and I am so looking forward to a fresh new start! In case you are wondering, YES it takes alot of money to build this brand new place. With higher rental, higher electricity, doubled increase in stocks and more and more money spent on our designs, it is unavoidable to incurr a debt. But we are positive with it and hence still went ahead with the expansion despite the prediction of this problem.
So you can see, things ARE REALLY falling into place and I am loving this place. Kaylene is now a respectable plus size designer boutique with ladies across the globe visiting us. In just 1 week, we have tourists from Germany, Indonesia and Australia! How awesome is that? We are counting our blessings though, proud of the achievements but humbled by the opportunities given...
Thank you for being such a wonderful person supporting us all the way. You indeed has seen us grow and through your love stretched us into making ourselves better for you. For the new customers, Thank you for trusting us and allowing us to dress you. This is extremely heartwarming to know and we will keep working on impressing you with our designs. We want to let you know that it is you who makes us evolve to where we are today. We aim to impress you with our own designs and match your status. Because we know you are unique and special and we want to do this together with you... Thank you once again for all that goodness that is happening upon us.
(okay, I need to rest. This gastro meds IS NOT working...))
Till then ladies!
Good night!
Wednesday, 1 July 2015
Move to Greater, Magical Possibilities...
Hello ladies,
It is time for me to update my blog and tell you about the recent happenings... I was hesitating if I should bare it all and tell you what went on for months. I wasnt sure if by baring it all will show the weak side of me. But after consideration, I thought it was important that you girls know the process of the new shop hunt because in every tiny ways, you are part of Kaylene and I needed to be responsible in keeping you girls updated.
Since March, I have been on a serious hunt to a new space for the new premise for Kaylene. It was indeed crazy! I had many places to go, things to do for the new place, new products launch (hence the many discussions) and on top of all these, I had to make sure Kaylene is running smoothly for her daily operations.
I am alot lesser in the shop these days due to the new shop hunt and new product launches but every time I am in the shop, I had comments from people telling me that Kaylene has fallen short of new designs and they are no longer impressed with our lack of updates and new launches. I thought hard about it and I agreed on it due to overwhelming new tasks I had to do and I take every responsibility for all of that. I had distractions from various 'to do list' and I was spreading myself too thin. Many told me to delegate the job which I tried but the mere fact that I couldnt even sit down with them to tell the girls on my to do list and ask for help was something which frustrated me. I end up doing most alone for I know I was running out of time. I have been very blessed and very fortunated to have good team who supported me and I must THANK these ladies namely Juliah, Evelyn and Fern for making sure that Kaylene is going to be in good hands while I go hunt for the ideal space. JUST by them staying put and holding the 'fort' and making sure Kaylene can run smoothly already warms my heart. They are the ones who made sure all goes smoothly and I know I could depend on them 100%. Just purely for this, they DESERVE every single applause from us!
Lets face this fact. Market has indeed been diluted and what seemed like a need is now a want. Being extremely sensitive to the plus size market, I knew that if I were to do an expansion now will be a very dangerous move. I had too many sleepless night, too many panic attacks whenever I think of this. But after various discussions, I knew that by moving forward is the only way. Many tried to convince me to stay put in the 370 sq ft unit because the customers care for my wellbeing. I am no longer the young me as before and I do wish to have my own kiddo. With such stress befall upon me, they question me if my decision was a wise one. I truly appreciate their kind support and concern but I know in order to grow, 'changing a new pair of shoes was necessary so that the feet will grow' I had many things that I promised my customers before and I really want to fulfil them. I know I may be late, but I always believe that it is better to be late than to never achieve. Hence, because I want to attempt to fulfil every single wish the girls wants, Mr Ling and I decided that a move was necessary.
My girls are awesome too, Karen kept telling me that it is time to spread my wings and soar. Pris kept telling me that she will support my decision no matter what, Jenah and Cate kept telling me that should we need help, they will be the first to offer. It was all these encouragement that I know I have a good support and trust. I knew that my decision whether good or bad will be supported by these good people surrounding me.
My family is really awesome too, many times, I hear them asking around for items that I need and they really tried their best in helping me. My sister is awesome too, telling me to do what was needed first and the rest can wait. So with all these fabulouse people and you supporting me, how is it possible for me to let you down? I cannot, I do not wish to either!
I decided that I MUST TELL YOU THE process of getting this gorgeous 1772 sq ft unit. IT IS REALLY NOT EASY. Prior to even signing the tenancy agreement, I had to make sure this unit has proper certification. The person in charge of this unit has showed lack lustre service towards me but to be fair, I was really a small pea compared to his other clients. I felt small and was challanged if I can take on such a big unit. Even after we got hold of the keys, there were leakage issues as this is a heritage building. Just when we thought we can look forward to getting the renovation done, there was a serious miscommunication and up till today, nothing has been done to this new place. Reinstatement to the current unit is FREAKING expensive too! The amount was horrifying (just a couple short to 10 grand) There was also things like insurance that we have to deal with. In short, too many paperwork, too many problems!!!! It hasnt been a easy journey as almost EVERYDAY, I get new shocks and dramas for the current and new shop. IT IS INSANE. On good days, I am positive and look forward to solving my '30 to do list' (its really amazing how I ALWAYS have more than 30 to do list) but on bad days, it can be scary...
I really hope by telling you all these you will be understanding on why I am seldom in the shop, and why I have 'lesser' products to launch. I will not give up and I KNOW that the new premise will be a gorgeous gorgeous GORGEOUS place to be in. I will be focusing on international orders and zoom straight into ecommerce as I want to fulfil many customers desire to purchase from us online.I will continue to work my butt off and continue to give you the best. Meanwhile, please stay with me, wait for me for I know for sure the new premise will change your perception on Kaylene.
Now the question is where and when Kaylene will be moving to? Kindly note that we will be moving to our NEW PREMISE:
It is time for me to update my blog and tell you about the recent happenings... I was hesitating if I should bare it all and tell you what went on for months. I wasnt sure if by baring it all will show the weak side of me. But after consideration, I thought it was important that you girls know the process of the new shop hunt because in every tiny ways, you are part of Kaylene and I needed to be responsible in keeping you girls updated.
Since March, I have been on a serious hunt to a new space for the new premise for Kaylene. It was indeed crazy! I had many places to go, things to do for the new place, new products launch (hence the many discussions) and on top of all these, I had to make sure Kaylene is running smoothly for her daily operations.
I am alot lesser in the shop these days due to the new shop hunt and new product launches but every time I am in the shop, I had comments from people telling me that Kaylene has fallen short of new designs and they are no longer impressed with our lack of updates and new launches. I thought hard about it and I agreed on it due to overwhelming new tasks I had to do and I take every responsibility for all of that. I had distractions from various 'to do list' and I was spreading myself too thin. Many told me to delegate the job which I tried but the mere fact that I couldnt even sit down with them to tell the girls on my to do list and ask for help was something which frustrated me. I end up doing most alone for I know I was running out of time. I have been very blessed and very fortunated to have good team who supported me and I must THANK these ladies namely Juliah, Evelyn and Fern for making sure that Kaylene is going to be in good hands while I go hunt for the ideal space. JUST by them staying put and holding the 'fort' and making sure Kaylene can run smoothly already warms my heart. They are the ones who made sure all goes smoothly and I know I could depend on them 100%. Just purely for this, they DESERVE every single applause from us!
Lets face this fact. Market has indeed been diluted and what seemed like a need is now a want. Being extremely sensitive to the plus size market, I knew that if I were to do an expansion now will be a very dangerous move. I had too many sleepless night, too many panic attacks whenever I think of this. But after various discussions, I knew that by moving forward is the only way. Many tried to convince me to stay put in the 370 sq ft unit because the customers care for my wellbeing. I am no longer the young me as before and I do wish to have my own kiddo. With such stress befall upon me, they question me if my decision was a wise one. I truly appreciate their kind support and concern but I know in order to grow, 'changing a new pair of shoes was necessary so that the feet will grow' I had many things that I promised my customers before and I really want to fulfil them. I know I may be late, but I always believe that it is better to be late than to never achieve. Hence, because I want to attempt to fulfil every single wish the girls wants, Mr Ling and I decided that a move was necessary.
My girls are awesome too, Karen kept telling me that it is time to spread my wings and soar. Pris kept telling me that she will support my decision no matter what, Jenah and Cate kept telling me that should we need help, they will be the first to offer. It was all these encouragement that I know I have a good support and trust. I knew that my decision whether good or bad will be supported by these good people surrounding me.
My family is really awesome too, many times, I hear them asking around for items that I need and they really tried their best in helping me. My sister is awesome too, telling me to do what was needed first and the rest can wait. So with all these fabulouse people and you supporting me, how is it possible for me to let you down? I cannot, I do not wish to either!
I decided that I MUST TELL YOU THE process of getting this gorgeous 1772 sq ft unit. IT IS REALLY NOT EASY. Prior to even signing the tenancy agreement, I had to make sure this unit has proper certification. The person in charge of this unit has showed lack lustre service towards me but to be fair, I was really a small pea compared to his other clients. I felt small and was challanged if I can take on such a big unit. Even after we got hold of the keys, there were leakage issues as this is a heritage building. Just when we thought we can look forward to getting the renovation done, there was a serious miscommunication and up till today, nothing has been done to this new place. Reinstatement to the current unit is FREAKING expensive too! The amount was horrifying (just a couple short to 10 grand) There was also things like insurance that we have to deal with. In short, too many paperwork, too many problems!!!! It hasnt been a easy journey as almost EVERYDAY, I get new shocks and dramas for the current and new shop. IT IS INSANE. On good days, I am positive and look forward to solving my '30 to do list' (its really amazing how I ALWAYS have more than 30 to do list) but on bad days, it can be scary...
I really hope by telling you all these you will be understanding on why I am seldom in the shop, and why I have 'lesser' products to launch. I will not give up and I KNOW that the new premise will be a gorgeous gorgeous GORGEOUS place to be in. I will be focusing on international orders and zoom straight into ecommerce as I want to fulfil many customers desire to purchase from us online.I will continue to work my butt off and continue to give you the best. Meanwhile, please stay with me, wait for me for I know for sure the new premise will change your perception on Kaylene.
Now the question is where and when Kaylene will be moving to? Kindly note that we will be moving to our NEW PREMISE:
38A Seah Street
With new opening hours:
12pm - 8pm (Monday to Sunday)
*for visits after 7.45pm, just give us a call and we will wait for you
And we are scheduled to move by:
19th July 2015
So ladies, are you excited to see the new place? Are you ready to come see this new place? Lets do a countdown with us! We will be doing a MASSIVE MOVING OUT SALE right now and the prices are RIDICULOUS! Come visit us and we will tell you more on the new unit!
Thank you ladies for reading this. This is important to us and do click like via our Fanpage to show support! We love you and we know you love us too! Till we meet again ladies! See you in MID JULY! Onward Kaylene goes! To newer, greater and magical new possibilities!
Monday, 22 June 2015
Asian Dare To Bare PART 2
Sorry ladies for the late post! Its been really a hectic period and not many will truly understand what I mean by 'occupied with things for the new shop' Please pardon my lack of updates and constantly late replies.. Not many understands the whole actualy situation Kaylene and myself has been in and we have been really stressing on doing things to MAKE SURE all of you will get to enjoy Kaylene in terms of service and products. It is not easy and I often how I will be able to pull this through but I am extremely positive and making sure I am ONLY surrounded by positive people and vibe in order to keep going... FOCUS is the key and positivity is the the 'fuel' that keeps me going on...
My purpose for this post is not to talk about the craziness I am going through now, more on what the header says! Yup, too many of you ladies have been coming up to us and asking us questions on why the respective models chose the taglines and how long did it actually take to make this short clip. In this video, it is explained in details on their thoughts etc. Go deeper and understand them better through this clip and ask yourself if you are one of them. Did you have to go through what they had been in?
This video may seem shoddy and lack lustre but it was the best the team could do because of the lack of experience and professional tools to make this work. Prissy has done all she can to make this video work and lets give her a resounding applause for her effort. We should also thank the team (Prissy, Jenah, Karen, Cate and myself) for making time and effort in making this a successful clip yet again. Do support these girls as they are working their butts off despite their busy schedule (most of us are business owners) to make effort in reaching out to you all. The bottom line is we LOVE YOU very much and we want to help you in any possible way and we hope through this channel you will be inspired to be more confident and learn to love yourself instead of hate.
Enjoy this video! Please click like and share this post and encourage the girls! More positive engagements will be lined up for you ladies and we hope you can hop on this wagon and enjoy self love, self worth. It is a journey that should include a bunch of like minded people! View the video here:
alrighty, I need to go! Need to firm up on the new collection and I bet you are as excited as the Kaylene babes! Ciao ciao!
Love
K
My purpose for this post is not to talk about the craziness I am going through now, more on what the header says! Yup, too many of you ladies have been coming up to us and asking us questions on why the respective models chose the taglines and how long did it actually take to make this short clip. In this video, it is explained in details on their thoughts etc. Go deeper and understand them better through this clip and ask yourself if you are one of them. Did you have to go through what they had been in?
This video may seem shoddy and lack lustre but it was the best the team could do because of the lack of experience and professional tools to make this work. Prissy has done all she can to make this video work and lets give her a resounding applause for her effort. We should also thank the team (Prissy, Jenah, Karen, Cate and myself) for making time and effort in making this a successful clip yet again. Do support these girls as they are working their butts off despite their busy schedule (most of us are business owners) to make effort in reaching out to you all. The bottom line is we LOVE YOU very much and we want to help you in any possible way and we hope through this channel you will be inspired to be more confident and learn to love yourself instead of hate.
Enjoy this video! Please click like and share this post and encourage the girls! More positive engagements will be lined up for you ladies and we hope you can hop on this wagon and enjoy self love, self worth. It is a journey that should include a bunch of like minded people! View the video here:
alrighty, I need to go! Need to firm up on the new collection and I bet you are as excited as the Kaylene babes! Ciao ciao!
Love
K
Tuesday, 16 June 2015
We are MOVING!!!!!
This unit is very very huge! It spans more than 1770 square feet (think as it is 1.5times bigger than a typical 5 room flat) and has a gorgeous spiral stairways to a mezzanine area. With this ample space as we promised our customers, this will be a comfortable and safe environment for ladies and their friends who come by to visit us. We plan in details like how we can make the ladies comfortable and even to the husbands/partners/family to settle at ease when they come too!
We will be expanding our products and variety and yes, we have included items like cocktail pieces, accessories and shoes! Yes ladies, we are finally bringing in shoes too! The first batch will be small for now as we are really new to the new product but we believe this collection will grow as the days progresses.
To those who ask when we will be moving to this gorgeous new premise, hang in there! We schedule to move in mid July and will be doing a grand REOPENING for this joyous occasion. We will be working really hard to impress you with the new location and products and we believe you will love it too!
We will be updating the progress from time to time and once we have the details, we will inform you! So click like in our Facebook! Support this beautiful shift to the new and upgraded Kaylene and encourage Juliah, Evelyn and Fern who work hard to make this unit a beautiful place for you! Onward we go!
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